Let me introduce myself

Now let’s get one thing straight …….. I’m not!

Hello, I’m Si and I’m bi. In my early 40’s, married to my soul mate and guiding light. We have two brilliant children, a mini menagerie of pets and live in a leafy suburb in the Midlands.

To the passing glance, I am the stereotypical bloke. Sound job, in to sports, claims to play golf, drives a decent car, likes a beer, goes to gigs, gets stressed easily, has holidays etc, etc, etc.

I came out to my wife in early 2021. I was becoming consumed with a very deep and severe crash to the “man” side of what some may term a bi-cycle, the phrase often used to refer to the varying strength of gender attraction that some bisexuals experience. It was deep, like nothing I’d felt before. I had always been able to scratch that itch quite easily, to put it down to stress, or hornyness, or both. But that time it stayed. That time it intensified. That time it began to worry me.

My wife could tell something was up. Initially, I blamed it on stress. I was going through a tough time with lots of things outside of my direct home life. But she knows me well and continued to be concerned. She knows me that well she intuitively gave me space and didn’t push things. This gave me the time for the introspection that I needed. So I told her “I think I’m bisexual. In fact, I know I am”.
Like the diamond she is, her reply was the best, simply “Is that it? I was worried there was something properly wrong”

For context, it’s probably important to state that when we got together over twenty years ago, we never discussed previous relationships or even sexual activity. It just wasn’t important. And to be honest, I probably wouldn’t have admitted to the man-on-man anyway. I’ll cover that in the blog, probably with multiple posts.

We have had more discussions. I’ve said some things that have rocked her a little. But she is so very supportive and for that I am so, so lucky. I only hope that I haven’t changed things between us. I mean, it doesn’t feel like it, but I’m worried because I have tried to be honest and in doing so have said things that might have changed the dynamic. I say might, because I’m probably just being paranoid. But it worries me because I love her with all my heart, she is my soul mate, my best friend and i still fancy her rotten. She is a hotty and I can’t get enough of her 😉.

Anyway, I’ll try to post regularly. I’ll try to respond to comments and questions. I’ll definitely tell you how it is Living the Bi Life.

Si